Do you take yourself too seriously? Do you have too much pride to make yourself the punch line of a joke? One of the very best ways to raise your likability factor is to be able to joke about yourself.
If you are able to share a story about a missed opportunity or some sort of brain dead moment that you have had, you might find yourself relating to more people.
All of us have moments in our lives where we missed an opportunity to close a sale, had a terrible interview moment, made a fool of ourselves while talking to a group, or just said the wrong thing at the wrong time to create an embarrassing moment.
It is the ability to talk about these moments or tell these stories about ourselves that creates a common bond with others.
It's funny to hear stories of other people's blunders and awkward momentsso don't be afraid to share yours.
I always get a kick out of the "too cool for school guy.
"He always walks around like he knows everything or has everything.
He is the guy that will never ask a question and never admit they don't know something.
He is also the person that seems to be the "loner" at work or in school.
The "too cool for school guy," doesn't have the confidence to be able to let others see they don't know everything.
They think not knowing something is a weakness rather thanan opportunity to grow and learn.
I've been involved in a number of training sessions for new home sales people over the years and this scenario comes up every time.
These training classes are always designed to be very interactive and involve a great deal of class participation.
As the class begins on the first day though, everyone is very quiet and only provide answers to scenarios that sound like the right thing to do; not what they actually do.
The class feedback typically needs to be forced by the instructor rather than voluntary by the class.
The thing is, everyone wants to look like they are serious, smart and good at what they do, so nobody wants to appear foolish in front of their peers.
A funny thing always happens though.
Someone will inevitably tell a story about a situation that didn't go very well for them.
It is at that moment in every class that the participation picks up; people start talking to each other, and useful tactics and common ground are discovered.
Why? Simply because people are inherently similar, and we can all relate to making mistakes and messing something up.
Laugh at yourself, and be confident enough to let others laugh at your story as well.
What is your funny story?