Some people feel strongly that we should try to focus on doing only what we enjoy, what feels right for us; they say that life is short, that each day should be lived doing what we want to do, the goal being to be happy and contented with our choices.
Whilst it is definitely important to be in control of our choices, feel satisfied with our life and live free from continuous stress there is also a valid justification in doing things you don't want to do sometimes.
Let's look at some of those reasons: - Understand the underlying reasons for feeling you don't want to do something.
Are you afraid, tense, embarrassed.
Might it be that you are being required to step out of your comfort zone and that's why you feel resistant and apprehensive? When you are under pressure to do things you don't want to do sometimes it can be interesting to ask yourself why you don't want to do them.
Is it fear of the unknown, of being found wanting in someway, is there a lack of relevant skills or dread at the prospect of having to ask for guidance? Pay attention to the reasons behind your hesitancy, then use that information to move forward and learn.
Hypnotherapy can provide valuable support in these instances, resulting in important personal development.
- Learning to temper your wants and desires is an important skill for an adult.
If you were feeling really hungry you would not push the people in front of you to one side and grab handfuls of food from the buffet, ravenously stuffing them into your mouth.
You would wait your turn, telling yourself quietly that food is on its way.
Sometimes we have to sit quietly, do things we don't want to do and temper our wants.
Good manners, restraint and self-discipline enable us to share our lives with each other.
- Seeing situations from another point of view is an important outcome from doing things you don't want to do sometimes.
Other people may have very different perspectives and priorities to you.
Respecting diverse outlooks and ways of doing things can introduce new insights, greater tolerance and appreciation of other people's views and right to have their wishes and tastes equally considered.
Afterwards you may still hold the same opinion as before, but you've learned about being receptive, trying something different and demonstrating patience and flexibility.
- Maintaining a positive mindset is a key element in doing things you don't want to do sometimes.
Accept that at times it's important to fit in with others, compromise and pleasantly go along with their choices.
Not every decision has to result in a debate or a disagreement; sometimes it's more constructive to give in with good humour.
This approach can turn a potentially negative experience into something far more positive and enjoyable.
A by-product is that other people feel supported by you as they see you compromising and respecting things that matter to them.
This may well encourage them to reciprocate and respect your wishes and choices on other occasions.
- Doing things you don't want to do sometimes can introduce you to completely new and unexpected people and places.
You widen your spectrum of experiences and become more diverse and knowledgeable as a person.
It can be a valuable way to widen your life experiences, learn about tolerance and lead a more varied and interesting life.